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Update on life [12 Jun 2013|08:53pm]
Found the perfect venue and it's reserved. Our wedding will be on March 16th, in the Ikebukuro Sunshine Aquarium which is where our first date was. Our planner is really nice and easy to talk with so I'm not worried or stressed anymore.

Work is going ok, I was contacted by the BoE to train high school students in the city in preparation for going to Canada. I'm an elementary school teacher so I'm not so great at teaching high school students- I'm always surprised at how high their level is and I think I might be babying them too much. I'll try not to do that at our next training session. On the bright side, they've opened up to me very well and are asking lots of questions about Canadian culture. I'm not Canadian, but I think I'm answering their questions well.

This weekend I have a drinking party with a few friends I havn't seen in a while and next week Tomo and I are going on vacation to Yamagata prefecture, we're gonna pick sakuranbo and do some hiking so I'm pretty excited about that.

Senbei is doing great too. It's a lot warmer so he doesn't crawl into bed with us anymore and instead goes into his own cat bed in the hallway.
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I think I found it! [10 Mar 2013|10:00pm]
Yes! I think we finally found the perfect venue! 6 months of searching and I think we're ready to make a decision. What a relief.

The air outside today was absolutely AWFUL! All that pollution/sand from China. I was supposed to meet a friend at Laketown but we decided to cancel due to the crazy conditions outside. It was a good idea to stay inside today, can you imagine breathing all that crap in? The sky was yellow it was so bad! Anything 50 meters away was hard to see.
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[08 Feb 2013|11:38pm]
What the fuck?! I'm so angry I have to write about this.

First, to clarify. I HATE doing the fucking dishes, they have to be washed by hand like we live in Eastern europe circa 1900 or something. Anyway, we have a system in place where whoever fixes dinner, the other person does dishes- usually I fix dinner because 1. I hate doing dishes and 2. my cooking is 100x better than Tomo's. Anyway, he quit his job and the time between that and his new job was one week, so he was doing a lot of the cooking and I was doing dishes. At one point I said we should split the work. Instead of making the other person wash dishes/wash the table and counters/ and vacuum. We could split the chores in half.

So today cause I'm very busy, I come home, make some pasta, salad, and toast and leave it out for Tomo to eat while I go to a private lesson. I come back at 10pm and the dishes are literally PILED into the sink. I was hoping to get a spoon to have some yogurt before my bath but all 5 of our spoons were in the sink. So I go upstairs on the computer to check the weather this weekend and Tomo comes upstairs asking if I was gonna do the dishes, I asked him why I should have to cause I cooked dinner. He storms downstairs in a childish tantrum complaining that we had decided to split the chores.

Here is the thing, he wasn't suggesting we split washing dishes, he wanted me to do EVERYTHING.

While he pouted like some little kid about it I went ahead and did all the chores cause I don't need a filthy fucking kitchen. Was I happy about it? Fuck no! I'm still pissed off. Who the fuck does he think I am? A maid? The chores are split meaning you do HALF, not I cut you some slack and do everything. What a douche.
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Merry Christmas everyone! [26 Dec 2012|09:32am]
I haven't updated in weeks, so I'll just talk about what has happened.

I came home for the holidays so right now I'm in America. The first couple of days I worked my ass off getting into shape and had my appointment for wedding dress alterations done last week. It will take a couple of months and I'm both anxious/nervous about it. I bought my heels from Taylor Says, they have a 6 inch heel and usually Tomo wouldn't like me being that much taller but the shoes are shark shoes! They work great with our aquarium theme.

Speaking of which, Tomo isn't doing too well, his work is so busy, he has overtime everyday and with me gone it's difficult for him to clean the house, make his lunch, play with Senbei, AND still practice guitar. I can't wait to go back for those reasons. He needs my help and I also miss Senbei lots.

Christmas day was awesome! After dress alterations I've been stuffing myself! Better start exercising again in another few days. For my birthday I basically got brand name clothing 2 Milly tops, a skirt, a dress (4 things just from Milly? Can't help it, I love their stuff), and a Rachel Zoe skirt. A nice winter wardrobe! The Rachel Zoe looks so low quality compared to the Milly. I can't believe it's in the $200 range.

So, what did you guys get?
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[08 Dec 2012|11:03am]
Last week went to the Shinagawa Prince Hotel for a tasting fair. I'm pretty positive I want the wedding there, but because we weren't able to try any food it was a good opportunity for us. It was NOTHING like I thought it would be, I just assumed tasting meant sampling, but no! We were given a freakin full course and a dessert buffet! Keep in mind the fair was free! All of the food was soooo good and so fancy. Thanks to the dessert buffet I decided to shell out the extra money to have one at my reception. The Tira misu and macorons were the best.

We also got to look at our reception space, it's the VIP room on the 33rd floor. A small area, not really a banquet hall, but we're having a small amount of guests so it works for us. There is a lovely outside view. Last time we were there we saw the other side with the view straight into Tokyo Bay, but the room we are getting has a view of Western Tokyo. No skytree or Tokyo tower, but you can see Mt. Fuji really well.

As for reserving the date. Tomo wants it to be on my Birthday, not only cause he won't ever forget our anniversary, but because that day is Taian which is considered lucky(From Rokuyo, the old Japanese calendar) but I think I wanted to wait till the 22nd although it's not as lucky. I'm not concerned with superstition, neither is Tomo originally. We both originally hoped for a night wedding underneath Tokyo Tower on Friday the 13th (unlucky) on Butsumitsu (unlucky) just that combo made it really appealling and kinda cool! But Tomo's parents were dead set against it (mine didn't mind) so we didn't go along with it. I still regret that a little, although I really do love the Prince Hotel and think it is more convenient for guests!
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[14 Nov 2012|04:09pm]
Today is Saitama's prefecture day, so I had off of work, but since government offices are still working (it's not a national holiday) I went to immigrations to get everything in my old passport transferred to my new one. I also got that weird new card thingy that is supposed to replace the old alien registration cards. Only took 20 minutes, but it's kinda weird. My visa is no longer in my passport (I was told it wouldn't transfer), so my card has to be used for everything instead. I guess that's better.

Tomo recently changed jobs so I'm getting used to his new schedule. He wakes up at 5:30 am and gets home at 6:30 p m which isn't so bad, but to wake up so early he goes to bed at 10:30 instead of midnight like before, I try to go to sleep at the same time so I don't keep him up. Because of that I'm super well rested and that's great, but I also have to do all the morning chores now and that sucks. (I gave Tomo a pass because he wakes up super early)

Speaking of chores, Last garbage day I decided to put the garbage in the hallway near the front door so I can take it out immediately when I leave, but sometime in the middle of the night Senbei ripped the bags open and had garbage strewn all around like some sorta crow. He ate coffe grinds!!! I mean, he's ok. He didn't get sick, but he made a huge mess.
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[30 Oct 2012|09:54pm]
[ mood | silly ]

Tomo told me today that one of the songs Xecsnoin are planning to put out on the next album was written about me.

Guess I can't complain about him staying out too late for rehearsals or practicing every night. When somebody does something like that for you, it's kinda super sweet.

I feel bad for hoping the vocalist doesn't butcher my song with weird lyrics/strange vocals. But I kinda feel that way. Have some respect for the muse!

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[26 Oct 2012|05:42pm]
Today 4 6th grade boys decided to re-enact the movie Mean Girls. Mostly the scene with the burn book and it got discovered right before my class which had to be canceled so they could get a pep talk about forgiving others and moving on.

For the record, this class is easily the worst at the school and if I was ever assigned to be their home room teacher I'd quit after day 1.
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[19 Oct 2012|05:33pm]
I'm in love with the Nutty Bavarian. Apparently, it's a caramel nuts vendor in America, but I saw it for the first time today in the local aeon mall while getting groceries. I can't say no to the smell of caramel, or nuts- so I bought 2 bags.
AHG! I CAN'T STOP EATING! This stuff is really really REALLY good! BUT the shop is only seasonal and they'll only be there until Tuesday. I have to buy more!!!! I looked it up online and they don't have a place where you can buy online and the closest shop is in Ginza.

This is killing me.

To make matters worse I need to start exercising/dieting cause I'm getting my wedding dress alterations done this winter and caramel nuts are NOT HELPING!
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[11 Oct 2012|09:17pm]
Busy week,

Saturday I met with 2 of Tomo's friends from his work and we went out drinking together. I usually worry about not getting along with his friends, but we just clicked! Made plans to hang out next month as well, totally looking forward to it.

Sunday Tomo and I went to a bridal fair at the Symphony cruise line in Tokyo bay. It's a boat wedding kinda deal, and the boat itself is really lovely, but it's HUGE! Even the smallest ship is a bit too spacious. Our coordinator was a man which was really weird because usually they're women, but he was hilarious. First thing he said to us was "Sorry you're stuck with Gramps" and he was really casual, also quite possibly the only coordinator who didn't start things by complimenting my Japanese which I appreciate a LOT. We enjoyed a nice 3 hour cruise around Tokyo bay, but I wasn't feeling it...maybe it was the casual atmosphere but I couldn't imagine it at all. I'm not sure a cruise wedding is totally us. That just means more things to think about. I feel like maybe we haven't found the best venue that really describes US yet. Maybe I need to go to a planner?

Work has been good this week, but I am so frustrated with this situation in one of my classes. There is this one kid who probably has an undiagnosed mental disorder. He isn't the best behaved kid and usually he sleeps through my classes (which I am all for, if he is sleeping he isn't disruptive). But you see, the problem isn't that, the problem is most teachers think it's a great idea to stick a quiet introverted kid next to the class asshole because it supposedly "quiets" the otherwise noisy kid. The thing is, this SUCKS for the good kid who has to put up with him. Because he always sleeps through class, she can't participate in pair activities, so basically she has to suffer and what for?! I try my best to put her into 3 person groups, but it's just sad to think about.

Uhg, and worst of luck. Yesterday my skirt zipper got caught in my blouse and I mean REALLY caught, it was jammed in there. I didn't wanna rip it, so I took it to the local tailor/cleaners to ask what can be done. They politely refused saying they weren't confident they could get it out without ripping it and didn't want to be accountable for ruining my blouse (makes sense), they did however give me tips on how I could easily get the zipper unstuck. Candle wax! Luckily we have some around the house in case of another 3.11 scenario so I rubbed the zipper down with the candle and voila! Got the zipper unstuck and my blouse out with only minor tears that can be fixed. Thank god!!
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[01 Oct 2012|09:53am]
Today was supposed to be my first day of work, but apparently their sports festival was during the weekend so when I got to school I found the gates locked and nobody there, awkward! Oh well, it's only a 30 minute bike ride away, I got some good exercise and because it's so sunny I can do all the laundry and Senbei seems pretty pleased that he isn't gonna be left alone all day.

OK, so last week I went to my first bridal fair and to say it was a let down would be an understatement. So I didn't have high hopes for the 2 fairs we had scheduled yesterday.

The first one was the Shinagawa Prince Hotel and...there was nothing wrong, nothing I didn't like. I was able to negotiate the dress fee to 0 and they offered us a bilingual MC and a bilingual pastor who is actually a real pastor from a nearby church, not some person working part time, also they were able to give us everything we want under our budget and even included a present of a 2 day stay at the hotel during the wedding. Unfortunately, we can't accept the present because of Senbei (1 day is ok, but I can't leave him for 2 days) We were also able to get a weekend plan no problem which is also a super plus- only negative is it is an early morning wedding which I don't really consider THAT negative, it just means guest might be annoyed by having to wake up early on a Sunday and I'd just have to tell them to suck it up.

Next venue we looked at was The place of Tokyo right next to Tokyo Tower, by this time I was in love with the hotel venue and didn't think it could be topped, but they had everything decorated perfectly, the banquet halls even had the main table where we could sit and actually imagine what the ceremony would be like, that was a major plus that no other area did. The thing is, it's a gorgeous venue and brand new (opened this year) so I didn't think there was any way in hell we'd afford it, but low and behold! The quote was below budget! We were even allowed to taste the menu (foie gras sushi was amazing) and some sweets from the dessert buffet- the service was above and beyond- it actually made me feel a little uncomfortable cause it was SO nice. We decided a Friday night would be best for this venue cause of the view of Tokyo Tower lit up from the Chapel ceiling glass. I think night time is a better party atmosphere anyway.

So....it's tough. 2 wonderful venues, both within budget but both extremely different styles so we have to think about it a lot. We have 1 more venue to look at next week, but already I feel confident. Instead of "Boohoo will I ever find a place?" it's "Which one do I choose?!"

Best of all, both places are roughly $3,000 under budget so we can use that money for other things, like upgrading the menu (Tomo wants buffet style so that is what we're getting) or getting a really good photo plan. I'm so relieved- all that stress lifted! Now I feel wedding planning is really fun!
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[26 Sep 2012|12:48pm]
[ mood | stressed ]

Lately Tomo and I are having difficulties picking a day for the wedding. We had originally hoped for October 13th, 2013(Sunday), but whenever we talk with planners we're told that we could get something better within our budget on a weekday or during winter/summer (Summer is not a very popular wedding season over here cause of the heat). One of the venues I want is only available for weddings from November to March, so I've had to rethink the October date we had hoped for. In general there are more benefits to a weekday wedding, mostly that we get the venue to ourselves and don't have to rush out after 3 hours to make room for the next couple, but it's not convenient for guests.

I was talking with Tomo about possibly changing our dates, he was open to some change, but he dropped the bomb on me saying he wanted the ceremony to happen before he goes on tour next winter. You're going on tour?!?! WHEN?! WHY?! They just released a single this month, but next year they intend to release an album and off he will go around Japan sinking money into the project. It's not the way I wanted to start married life...

I hate International weddings, I hate thinking about what we'll have to do to make it bilingual and the negotiations to incorporate some of my family's cultures into it. I get stressed just thinking about it and this is the time in our planning when we really HAVE to think about it and make decisions. Most of my married friends got married in America, so I kinda feel alone, like I have nobody to talk to and ask "What did you do about blah blah" or whatever. And most other Americans who marry in Japan are men, and men don't really care, it's the women who make decisions and plan. I guess I feel more nervous cause I have to do all the planning and decisions in another country, in another language. I have confidence, but I feel a little shaken sometimes, cause it's such a big event! I want things to be perfect!

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Bridal fairs and stuff. [24 Sep 2012|09:54pm]
[ mood | defeated ]

Today I went to my first bridal fair and I was really excited about it, but to be honest, it was very underwhelming. My 1st choice was a place called La Clairiere and I was so convinced that this would be THE place, but it didn't look nearly as good as in the photos and it's an area in the middle of a neighborhood so you can see mansion buildings behind the trees. That won't bother many people, but it bothered me. I was also bothered by the fact that there was limited seating in the garden and they wouldn't budge on bringing more chairs. We were told guests would have to stand.

They also refused to budge on the course menu- French food was all they would do and I don't want to serve my guests something if I don't even know what it is. I was also told it would cost me 50,000yen to bring in my own dress. Most high end hotels charge 30,000yen. A tiny wedding venue has no place charging that much.

They gave us a quote that was a little over budget- all things considered I decided it wasn't the place. Don't get me wrong, it was lovely, but it was SIMPLE. It doesn't LOOK expensive and yet it was.

I felt REALLY discouraged after that. So Tomo and I went to a Zexy navi counter in Oomiya to hopefully get more ideas. I decided I don't want simple/plain...I want something unusual and impacting.
It was WAY better, we were shown 3 places we liked a lot and booked for their bridal fairs.

I have this sinking feeling that getting married in Japan will mean me settling for something mediocre that I'm not in love with just cause it meets the most of my criteria. A bride should never settle....

Hopefully next week's fairs will be better. Among them are a cruise wedding and the other one is a venue right below tokyo tower- seriously, there is a glass ceiling where you can look straight up and see the tower above you- same place also won't charge me to bring my own dress which is amazing! I'm excited to see them both.

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Today's passage iiiiiiiiss..... [23 Sep 2012|12:56pm]
[ mood | silly ]

Ok, so while I was in America my dad got me a bible cause I don't have one and well, anyone who is christian needs a bible. The thing is, most christians DON'T read the bible, they only pick it up to look at passages in the new testament they agree with or can use for their own agenda. To me, this is a shame because the old testament is where it's at! I'm partial to Deuteronomy. I like this one!

Deuteronomy 25:5
If brothers are living together and one of them dies without a son, ... Her husband’s brother shall take her and marry her ... However, if a man does not want to marry his brother’s wife, she shall go to the elders at the town gate ...Then the elders of his town shall summon him and talk to him. If he persists in saying, “I do not want to marry her,” his brother’s widow shall go up to him... take off one of his sandals, spit in his face and say, “This is what is done to the man who will not build up his brother’s family line.”That man’s line shall be known in Israel as The Family of the Unsandaled.

You go girl!
but this one is pretty cool too. (Also from Deuteronomy)

If two men are fighting and the wife of one of them comes to rescue her husband from his assailant, and she reaches out and seizes him by his private parts, you shall cut off her hand. Show her no pity.

In the case you might be worried about some dude's wife, the bible assures you, "Don't worry about that bitch."

Oh and don't take offense. I am christian, I'm just not the type who applies everything in the bible to my daily life. Let's be real here, that's not possible.

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[22 Sep 2012|07:14pm]
[ mood | angry ]

You know on LJ how they have a "popular entries" section of the bottom of the main page? Well sometimes they have posts from the community "Oh no they didn't" and I will admit, as a celeb gossip junkie I tend to look in the community and sometimes even the comments. I do this cause I want to know what people think about certain stories, but instead I have to wallow through 300 entries of stupid animated gifs and one word replies.

Why even bother commenting at all? Unless you have something worthwhile to contribute you can take your animated gifs of animals or celebrities making goofy faces and shove it.

I should stop reading comments, I really should.

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Vietnam Festival in Yoyogi Park. [17 Sep 2012|12:53pm]
Yesterday, Tomo and I went to the Vietnam festival in Yoyogi park. He is not a fan of Vietnamese food, but I am and he was kinda doing it for me since the day before he had gone out with his friends instead of spending time with me.

Anyway! It was really nice, they had a bunch of booths set up selling clothing, incense, and even a place you can get henna tattoos. (I didn't get one) But what I went for is the food! So we made our way to the food booths and shared a bit of everything. Such as....

Vietnamese sandwich (my favorite thing at the fest. So good!)
Thai basil rice (Tomo liked it)
Beef Pho (I didn't like it. I like Chicken Pho more)
Jumbo vietnamese grilled yakitori (loved it)
grilled harumaki (Tomo liked this the most)
vietnamese coffee with coconut powder (I LOVE vietnamese coffee)
Chai tead with coconut ice cream and tapioca (This was yum as well)
Watermelon smoothie (Very refreshing and it actually tasted like watermelon!)
Vietnamese yakisoba (We chose the wrong booth. It tasted awful.)

So on to photos!


One of the events happening on the main stage.



One of the booths



Yum!



Tomo looking up the numerous restaurants.



My favorite thing at the Festival. It tasted so good with the chicken and what tasted like pickled veggies, a spicy sauce, and mayo.

It was super fun, I gotta go to more of these.
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Jesus fuck... [13 Sep 2012|02:01am]
[ mood | shocked ]

I get this way sometimes, I hate to talk about this because I feel like I'm talking too much about wedding stuff, but this is something I have felt before and will probably continue to feel later on.

Ok, so I don't really get culture shock too often, but when you're a foreign bride planning in Japan I think you do end up with a little shock. I mean, it's not so much weddings itself, but the brides. Have you guys ever heard of The Knot? Well it's a wedding group for Americans, over here in Japan we have Zexy. Now, I am a member of The Knot and I am a member of Zexy. Today I decided to check out the forums on Zexy in the hopes of meeting other brides and hearing what other people do for their weddings.

There was NOTHING I read on that site that didn't surprise/disgust the shit outta me.
I don't know if it is the people asking if it is ok to not wear gloves (and subsequently being told no)
(omg, don't get me started on Japanese brides and their gloves. It's like they purposefully cover themselves with every accessory imaginable. Who wears a glove when you get your freakin' marriage ring?!)
the brides contemplating turning their wedding dresses into curtains/baby clothes after the ceremony. (AHHHH!!!!!!)
And just countless brides who don't care about making their wedding fun for anybody else. One bride married a man from Taiwan and his whole family came to the wedding with no bilingual person prepared. Who wants to sit through an hour of shit you don't understand and PAY for it.

and just...uhg I could go on, but I feel I need to sit down and process this information some. It's like a guide of What not to do. I'm starting to think I won't be able to make any Japanese bride friends. I can't. Not without blowing a casket.

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[11 Sep 2012|11:13pm]
So in a post before I talked about getting eyelash extensions for my birthday. The counseling went well and I was given a variety of choices of lash size/thickness and curl style. At first I was nervous, but it didn't hurt at all and was very relaxing. I think I fell asleep. When you get extensions you aren't supposed to get them wet for 24 hours, but the second I stepped outside it was raining/thundering and I didn't bring an umbrella. x_x;; I was super lucky the salon sold parasols/umbrellas but I looked so dumb with sunglasses on during a thunderstorm. But I was desperate not to get them wet!
I like them, but it's a tough month....when you have extensions you are not supposed to use oils but I use pure oils for everything. I wash my make-up off with olive oil, I moisturize with jojoba oil, and I use a rosehip seed oil treatment before bed. I had to stop using all of those and now I'm using a cheap non-organic moisturizer and it's tough breaking my old routines. I want to find a place that uses a bonding agent strong against oil- or I'll only get extensions for special occasions.

Speaking of special occasions, I'm a little stressed about bridal fairs. There are quite a few places I want to check out, but because of Tomo's schedule (He is actually touring this month and next month) there are only 3 days we can go together and it's kinda important to me that Tomo sees the venue also. I'm upset cause I made reservations for a certain time with one venue and I got a reply that they were full. I hope to god they can fit us into another time that day, cause if they can't it will be another month before we can check it out.
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[09 Sep 2012|09:03pm]
Yesterday was my birthday. I went to Kichijouji with Tomo, had eggs benedict at rose bakery and dinner at Gono. I used to love Gono, but it was really bad- all the drinks tasted nasty and the hamburgers were only so-so. I should have made reservations to Forte, but oh well.

Afterwards we went to the park and Tomo proposed to me there. It was a sweet proposal, very personal. He basically had a glass slipper with my name embossed on the inside made just for it. He started talking to me about Cinderella and how the prince had the wrong idea having everybody try on the shoe, pulled out the glass slipper saying it was easier for him to find his princess and then pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him. He had everything planned out but because he was so nervous he said everything really fast which made it sound a little funny, but it was very nice.

This morning I went to Jumble store to sell some of my clothes, mostly old stuff that doesn't fit or stuff I don't like anymore. I usually get a lot from them, but for brands like Guess and a Samantha Thavasa bag I got peanuts. It's better than just throwing them away and I needed the space in my closet anyway, but I was hoping for more than what I got. So that kinda sucked.
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[04 Sep 2012|11:02pm]
[ mood | ditzy ]

I have an appointment to get eyelash extensions on Thursday.. I don't know if I'll get them or not, need to do a consultation first, I've never had them before and am kinda wary about how I'd remove mascara with them on or if I can even use mascara. If they're a hassle I really don't want them, but I suck at putting on false lashes and the glue never seems to last. I kinda wanna look good for my birthday this Saturday so that means splurging on lashes, yeah!
Anyone else had 'em done? Tell me about them!

Uhg...I'm spending way too much and it's ok with the salon because I need to invest in ME, but just other stuff I've been buying. Rakuten has become a poison for me, I bought those nectarines, 2kg of mikans(on reserve), a new memory foam futon, lavera lotions, dr pepper just lots of stuff. I think I'm just addicted to buying things online and having stuff come right to me, it's like a giddy high I get over clicking buttons and receiving things. I gotta stop this.
On the bright side, I have like 600Rakuten points now.

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